For Next Time

For Next Time

I have decided to compile a list of names we all know and let you the reader comment on which of these characters of history would be considered normal or abnormal.

1 Judas

  1. Napoleon
  2. Di Vinci

to be continued…

 

Let Team Work Blur the Lines of Normality

Are we Taking Ourselves Way too Seriously

foodchainSo here we stand on our way into the new year.  It is slipping by at warp speed for me, and for others it might as well be a snail, oozing through the cement of New York City.

We suppose that we are going to be around to figure all that ails us, all that bothers us and all that is quite unexplained.  We as rational creatures must come to the conclusion that we are not wise nor evolved to come to the simplest of conclusions on the existence of our species.

Toward that end I venture to tackle topics far and wide, giving the reader example after example of the human’s mind ability to justify, stupefy and yes impress the heck out of all observers.

Not a day goes by that one of us on planet earth does not make the others on the planet to look/ see or hear in awe a creation by another soul.  We are amazed at each other.  But to state that we have evolved would be a farce.  So in conclusion, we are taking ourselves way to seriously.  Even if we are at the top of the food chain.

Even for the lowly brick mason that toils day and night to put food on the table is not so arrogant to think that he might not have enough work to put food on the table.  Yes he is at the top of the chain, simultaneously nothing is guaranteed in this life. Then again the king of the jungle has no problem sauntering about without a care in the world.  So who is really taking themselves too seriously.

Case in point my stepson, almost lost it because the word “ourselves” in the title was not capitalized.  I did that on purpose, just to make a point. Apparently it worked.

Heidi

Control Freak

Oh the ride the vicious ride we call life. Is it ours to control or ours to let go.  What would you the reader be inclined to do.  Let us break down the advantages of both of these possibilities.

Control:  It sounds so easy to say this would be the way to go.  The power the word imposes, instantly is met with approval form our minds.  Yes “control” it’s just a simple proposition of mind over matter.  The ability of the human form to overcome practically anything with grace.

The ego is quite the debater; it shall allow us to run down the thoughts that we find impressive with the greatest of ease. While helping us resist the first hint of any thought that might dissuade us from our all-important selves.

Letting Go: Face it my fellow humans, we are quite the scaredy’ cats when it means we have to let go of the little bit of power that we convinced our minds we own.  We would be lying if we haven’t run across the few souls that we have among us that actually have gotten it right.  That would be simply that this life is simply not about ourselves… it is about others.

We see this proposition so rarely that we seem to think it is the oddity of the two choices above.  So much time rolls by between our encounters with the individual that has let go and demands the higher power or their God, will them in the direction they should take.

I will in the next blog give you a complete and perfect example of an individual that has certainly let go….

Heidi

Team To Build

Team to Build.

We have to come to a way out. Abnormal behavior is not restrained on a singular level. Another approach has to become a team effort.  All parties involved, all individuals that are in the sphere of the person acting in an abnormal way must be working In unison to tackle the multitudes of issues that plague the subject.

team building

I certainly should choose a better title than “subject” since it denotes a clinical aspect that I find distasteful. In fact we should be using terms such as human, person, friend etc.  The goal is not to inflame the already tenuous state of affairs, when it comes to an unstable soul.

A person on the track of abnormality will gravitate to definitions of abnormality that will cement the behavior and delay any progress too a normal state.

We are discussing in this blog, behavioral problems not mental states that require psychological medication.  There are specific techniques that pertain to the solution of behavioral issues.

A team approach is key to progress.  Family, friends and counsel must at all times be on the same page.  The issues our friend is facing will be working against our best efforts.  The self-talk that the subject is faced with is relentless and long standing.  Every word of encouragement, all possible affirmations and guidance of self-direction must all be backed up with action.

Words are not enough; action new habits will be the mortar that we as a team will use to glue brick by brick the road to recovery.  This is plain and simply warfare on a very personal level.  Suggesting leads to direction…direction leads to action and action lead to new habits.  These habits will have to be reinforced over and over to erase the strong urge to play the patients personal selection of self talk.

So Remember, TEAM is our only realistic technique.  All other methods are one step forward three steps back.

 

Heidi